Infotainment Friday: Learn To Love Yourself And Be Selfish

Our Friday talk today will be focused on being selfish, yes selfish,  take care of oneself, get a good alone time and pamper oneself.  most times when the word selfish is being mentioned theres a negative vibe to it,  which is not supposed to be. In this present happenings not being selfish is actually a sin to oneself. 

When you depend on friends to give you joy and self-worth then you're heading for a long ride, because not all friends are sincere or give positive advice. some friends might encourage you to go beyond your comfort zone to achieve something that they know is unachievable, and it's something they cannot do at all, something that might have a negative effect on your personality. 

Enough of the somethings, lolz

Let’s start out with this: dependency is not a weakness. It’s actually healthy, as long as you can keep it balanced with independence.

We all need to be taken care of, validated, encouraged, and given support. When we can receive these things from others and use them to nurture ourselves, this is healthy dependency. When we draw strength from these experiences, it allows us to easily be independent at other times—relying on and caring for ourselves, and being the one to support others.

This is called interdependence, and it’s a beautiful ebb and flow in relationships of both giving and being able to receive.

Over-dependency is when you find yourself struggling to return to emotional independence when needed. 

When we try so hard to constantly please someone else, we start to become unreal.

Whatever your own experience, over-dependence usually happens when we try to rely on someone in a healthy way and get hurt instead of being supported. Our instincts kick in, and we try new strategies, looking for ways to get the love we need and avoid the hurt.

So make the decision to be selfish.

Others aren’t the only ones who can fulfill your need for love. In fact, if you don’t love yourself you might have a hard time accepting or feeling like you deserve love.

Take some time to really accept yourself. When you do this, there’s no need act or be fake just to be loved. Yes, you are flawed; this makes you no less lovable. You deserve time, attention, care, acceptance, appreciation, honesty, and gentleness. Take a weekend to give yourself these things. Love yourself!  I love you!